Healthy christian dating
So, I want to throw some thoughts and observations out there that I’ve found helpful in simplifying this topic and how to approach it as a Christian. And please…don’t find any assurance in the fact that this article starts with the number 7 (for you super-Christians out there, you know that the number 7 symbolizes perfection or completion in Scripture). The word Christian is not an adjective used to describe media, or clothing, or music- it’s a group of people.That was pretty much a coincidence, and holds no value to the credibility of this post. People who are committed to living a life that is infused with God’s love.Realize that over 50% of girls and over 40% of guys never date in high school.The Bible gives us some very clear principles to guide us in making decisions about dating.
Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate.
As a relationship therapist, I’ve been immersed in the world of relationships over the past few years. Remember that there is no such thing as “Christian dating”, only Christians who date: One of the most confusing things we can do for ourselves is to categorize things by the Christian subtitle.
You flood my inbox every day with a list of your seriously legitimate (well…mostly) questions. And we’ve taken all the fun out of it…but most of all, we’ve take God out of it, too.
This involves judging a potential guy or girl for the 38 qualities you are looking for in an ideal mate—before even grabbing coffee together. Sometimes the “hanging out” leads to hooking up, sans dating, which is another uber-confusing side effect of the Faux Christian Dating cycle. What if Christians just began to date like normal people—not dating toward immediate marriage and not eschewing dating for the less-desirable “hanging out” no man’s land?
It’s like arranged marriages where no one is making the arrangements, and it doesn’t seem to work very well. Here’s what I think it would require: Stop evaluating whether the guy who’s taken an interest in you is strong and tenderhearted enough to raise your future kids.