Validating feelings counseling
Like the rare bowl, people don’t recognize the value it has in establishing a healthy bond and promoting positive change in others. You think we are too strict and prefer we do what your friends’ parents do. Notice in both scenarios, the person validating did not react.
As an expert in relationship dynamics, I am amazed and perplexed by validation.To validate someone is first to accept someone’s feelings. Next, it is to understand them, and finally it is to nurture them. A few years ago, an individual purchased a bowl for at a garage sale and proudly displayed it on a mantelpiece not knowing it’s value.Later when they had it appraised they learned it was a 1,000 year-old Chinese Ding bowl from the Northern Song Dynasty.